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Once an insecure young man whose identity was defined by the opinions of others. Now full of confidence in Christ’s acceptance and His unconditional love for me.


Who I Was Before Christ

The World Made Fun of Me
When I was a kid, I was what you would call “sensitive”. And let me tell you, you don’t make a lot of friends when you cry a lot. In elementary school, they called me Cryin’ Ryan. Some people, who never went to elementary school with me, heard that nickname from others and used it against me. As I got older, I learned to control my emotions, but this “identity” dogged me into high school. I never understood why people would be so cruel.

This pain of getting picked on motivated me as I went off to college. I thought that becoming an engineer was going to make me somebody who people would respect. I worked hard through college, earned an electrical engineering degree and got a great job with 3M. I was very proud of my efforts and for landing a job with an excellent company.


What Changed?

The World Left Me Empty
When I moved to St. Paul, to start my career, I felt that I had truly made it. I was somebody now, an engineer with a great company, who makes a lot of money. I was successful. Over the next six months, I hit the bar scene with some of my new friends and co-workers, trying to find a girlfriend. I honestly thought it would be easy because I was such a success. Girls should like me! But, after several failed relationships and a one night stand, I was even emptier than before. By society’s standards I had made it, but I didn’t feel like I had. I was supposed to be somebody, but I sure didn’t feel like it. My identity was in crisis. If I wasn’t the success I was supposed to be, who was I?

A short time later I was invited to a Bible Study. As I sat in that room, with fifteen strangers, I felt more comfortable than I had in a long time. A few things stood out to me. One, I felt that these people would not judge me or make fun of me for what I said. I was so sick of my past and society in general, that it was refreshing not to feel judged. Two, I felt so much peace. These Christians all had peace and confidence that I so desperately wanted. My life was empty, and theirs were not.


Who I Am Now

God Accepted Me
At the end of the study, one of the leaders asked me how long I had been a Christian. The question was simple enough, but it hit me like a ton of bricks. Right then and there, I said to myself, “God, I don’t know what these people have, but I gotta have it, and I gotta have it NOW.” After I said this, something was different; I felt the peace I so longed for. I had gone to church growing up and I had heard about Jesus, but I never had a relationship with Him. I prayed to receive Jesus Christ as my savior that day and God came into my life and gave me a new identity!
2 Corinthians 5:17
This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!

My life started changing. I was no longer defined by the cruelty of others. I was no longer defined by society’s view of success. I know who I am! My identity is no longer in crisis. My identity was now as a child of God, as someone who was loved by God and special to God! This was an incredible thing for me to grasp!

God gave me new labels: I am God’s child (John 1:12), I am dearly loved by God (1 Thess. 1:4), I am forgiven (Eph 1:8), I am God’s masterpiece (Eph 2:10)

You can have peace and new labels too!


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